You are planning your wedding and you want everything to be a reflection of you and your love. The ceremony should not be any different. Writing your own vows does not have to be daunting. Here are some quick tips and guidelines.
1. What is your style? Decide if you want to say separate vows or the same vows that you compose together. You can also combine the 2 options by reciting some that you have written combined with the traditional vows.
2.What makes the vow? Keep in mind that you are entering into an agreement. It should include a declaration of your love, promises for the marriage and your personal touch. Just remember to keep the vows from one to three minutes long.
3. Consult your officiant. They can guide you through what resources you can use and they can also offer examples.
Practice before the big day and remember to speak like you normally speak. It is an emotional time so don't be afraid of the tears.
Great tips. Remember that a vow is meant to be just that--a promise, a commitment. Oftentimes in writing their own vows, couples forget this and spend a lot of time talking about how much they love the other person, but they omit the promise part! To affirm Nicole's tip #2 above, be sure that some part of your vows contain the words I will, I pledge, I commit to, I promise to, etc.
ReplyDeleteAnother option is to repeat some vows after the officiant, and then have your officiant state that "Bride and Groom would like to share some special words with one another". Then you're free to say whatever you like--it doesn't have to be in vow format as you've already taken care of that part.